Be a Good Exercise Role Model
09 Jan 2012
Stefanie Lester Coslow is a native New Yorker currently residing in Chicago with her husband and two kids and teaches at CorePower Yoga throughout their Chicago locations. In a former life, she was an accountant at a TV Rep firm who studied Psychology at school, talk about yin & yang.
So first I need to start with a major shout out……….my hubby ran his first race last week, a 15k, and did awesome. He took charge of his health last summer, started eating better, started running, and lost a significant amount of weight. He doesn’t do anything half-assed and has really gotten into running, and the kids and I were so excited and so proud to cheer him on in his inaugural race. And throughout my yoga journey, they’ve been there to cheer me on and support me as well.
All this made me realize that I’m extremely proud of a few, I think, important messages that we are sending our kids. The first is that we are supportive and celebrate each others endeavors and accomplishments. It’s not always easy, clearly there’s only a finite amount of free time, and I’m not going to lie, it quite often can become a power struggle over who gets to go do their thing and who is staying with the kids. The Cleavers we are not. But, all in all, I think we do a decent job of compromising and trying to make it fair, while simultaneously trying to balance that all with family time. Like I said, not always easy, but usually it works out ok.
The next message sort of combines a bit with the first one, but it’s about valuing oneself and making time for yourself outside of being mommy or daddy. Maybe it sounds a bit selfish, but I think it’s necessary and helps me to be a better parent, a better person. And I think that’s really valuable for our kids to see and take into adulthood with them. I think it’s so important to take some time for oneself and not lose sight of you as an individual.
Lastly, I am so proud to be showing our kids how important it is to be active, healthy, and fit.
I’m so glad they are exposed to it and sincerely hope they make fitness a part of their daily lives, it is so, so important and, in my opinion, the fountain of youth.
There is one caveat to that though. In the interest of full disclosure here, I struggled with eating disorders for many years. And as fabulous as fitness is, I know all too well that it can be taken too far. For a long time, exercise combined with me in a sentence was practically a dirty word in my family. But I’ve come a long way and believe I have a healthy outlook on/approach to things these days. I’m just hoping I pass that along to my children versus any obsessive/self depreciating tendencies. I’ve already had my 6 year old daughter ask if she looks fat, I think she was probably just repeating something she’d heard (hopefully not from me!) and not really pondering, but still, that scares the crap out of me! But I’m trying really hard to be the best, most moderate example I can be.
Yet again, life is all about finding that balance.
Peace, love & yoga,
Stefanie
Take one of Stefanie’s classes at CorePower yoga studios throughout Chicago corepoweryoga.com. She is on the schedule as Stefanie C. She also works with private clients in their homes so think of her for your next party or corporate event. Either write her a note on the blog, or call her directly at 646-642-3391.